WIVES, SUBMIT TO YOUR HUSBANDS!!!

I asked a friend recently what he thought about single mothers with children and his response was that it was a matter of choice.

I then asked him whether it was right for a woman to have children without being married and he said no. What we both agreed eventually was that it was fornication, which the Word of God, the Holy Bible condemns as a sin.

Dear friend, there are many reasons married couples separate but in today's post we will look at the one that has to do with submission on the part of the wife.

The Bible says in Ephesians 5:22-23, "Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Saviour of the body."

Verse 22 of this scripture commands wives to submit to their husbands as to the Lord Jesus Christ. Now, what does it mean to submit to the Lord Jesus Christ? Jesus Christ is first our Creator (John 1:1-3), then He is our Saviour and Redeemer (Luke 2:11; 1 Timothy 1:15).

What this means is that our submission to Jesus is one of TOTAL obedience and without question. Why this is so is because Jesus as God knows our every need and CANNOT lead us astray.

It means whatever Jesus tells us is what we do. It means Jesus' Word is FINAL. He has the final say in ALL THINGS because He can do and undo. Jesus is the Alpha, the Omega, the First and the Last, the Beginning and the End, the Great I Am.

Disobeying Jesus Christ's command is rebelling against Him and whoever rebels against Jesus is in danger of going to Hell fire for eternity unless the person repents GENUINELY, confesses and returns to beg Jesus for forgiveness.

Dear friend, if Jesus Christ our Lord and Saviour who has all these attributes commands wives to submit to their husbands as to Him, there must be a reason. And whichever woman refuses to obey this simple command is rebelling against Jesus Christ and risking a lot.

In so many homes today, we find women who challenge their husbands' authority as head of the home, even amongst Christian women and their usual argument is that God created everyone equal.

The situation is even worse in homes where the woman is either earning more income than her husband or is the one providing the needs of the home as a result of a misfortune in her husband's income source.

I am amazed to see that in different organizations here in Nigeria my home country, majority of the female executives are either single mothers or unmarried even at an age overdue for marriage.

In my place of work, what I have observed is that most of the time, such women are very hostile and disrespectful of men and it may be the main reason why men outside run away from them in marriage.

One of the senior pastors in my local Church Fellowship said in the original Hebrew text of the Bible, the word "submit" used in Ephesians 5:22 to wives concerning their husbands is a military term.

If you are familiar with the military, the usual phrase is "obey the last order", which means whatever your superior or commanding officer tells you to do is what you do without question.

If the Word of God uses a military term to direct wives to submit to their husbands, it means, it must be total submission.

Now, a Christian wife reading this article may argue and say wives should submit to their husbands in all things that is not sin. This is quite true. However, you usually find wives who want to have the last say on a matter concerning important issues and such wives even go as far as reporting the matter to outsiders who they expect would support their point of view and advise them to maintain their view.

For instance, a husband may want to stay in one part of the city while the wife who earns more than him would insist on staying in another part of the city and even when it brings disagreements, the wife would still insist on having her way.

A husband may want their children to go to school from home while the wife would want them to go to boarding school. This can bring serious disagreements in the home if not managed wisely.

A husband may want his brother to visit them to stay while looking for a job while the wife would insist that no relatives should stay with them.

Just as a subordinate officer in the Military cannot challenge his superior officer, a wife is not to challenge her husband on any matter.

What most Christian wives forget to understand is that the GREATEST weapon they possess is PRAYER to the Almighty God and Father of our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ.

Since God judges our intentions, a Christian wife who prays to God for a genuine intention concerning her husband would have her prayers answered speedily by the Almighty.

I have watched on television and heard the testimony of a Pastor who was once a politician before giving his life to Jesus. This man was trying to become a governor of one of the states in my country Nigeria.

The man said his wife, a devoted Christian, without challenging him openly, was praying against her husband's political ambition because she knew it involved a lot of diabolic and ungodly practices.

The man, who said he knew the wife's prayers was working against his political ambition, at a time stopped her from going to Church. The woman did not rebel or challenge her husband's authority but obeyed his command and stopped going to Church - but she NEVER stopped praying.

A day came when the man travelled to buy a ticket to send his wife back to her home country because he felt enough was enough.

The man said that night, the Lord Jesus Christ appeared to him and told him he (politician) was fighting Him (Jesus Christ). He told Jesus it was not Him (Jesus) he was fighting but that his wife refused to submit to him (politician) and was working against him.

Jesus Christ insisted that the man was fighting Him (Jesus) and at that point, the man realized his mistakes, repented, and gave his life to Jesus Christ.

Today, he is a pastor and tells this testimony as proof of the Power of Prayer.

Recall, dear friend, the wife never rebelled or challenged her husband but exercised her authority as a child of Christ Jesus our God and prayed for His intervention in her marriage and Jesus Christ who sees and knows our hearts and intentions knew her intentions were GENUINE, and granted her request and made her husband repent and submit to Him (Jesus Christ) and their marriage is intact till today.

Dear friend, if you are a woman reading this, and you are a Christian wife whose husband lives an ungodly life, there is no need to challenge him openly.

Use the power you have as a child of God and pray to God through Jesus Christ our Lord and if your intentions are genuine, Jesus will SURELY answer and grant it.

If you reading this are a wife who is not a Christian and are having very serious difficulties in your union with your husband, there is only ONE solution to your problem, and His name is Jesus Christ.

If you give your life to Jesus, 100% of your problems are solved. There is no human being in this world that can live in peace outside of Jesus Christ - it is simply not possible.

If as a wife, you go outside to take advice from people, especially non-Christians, you risk the danger of breaking your marriage and offending God.

As I have shown you via the testimony given, Jesus ALONE is able to solve all our problems so He is the one to turn to in prayer and He will respond appropriately, if you believe He can do it.

It could be your husband for whatever ungodly reason is flirting with other women and committing adultery and offending God. 

The solution is not to fight him or join him by also committing adultery with other men or divorce him, as satan and demons would want you to do and break your marriage.

If this happens, you will also end up in hell forever if you die as an adulterer or divorcee, even though satan used your husband to cause the problem.

The solution is to take your case in prayer to Jesus Christ who will prevent you from contracting any disease from your husband's flirting behaviour and eventually arrest your husband and draw him from darkness of sin to the Way of Light in Christ Jesus.

The question, dear friend, is, do you believe?

May the good Lord bless you as you heed His Word today, act on it and share with others in Jesus' Glorious Name, Amen.

Gabriel Ama.