“Lean on, trust in, and be confident in the Lord with all your heart and mind and do not rely on your own insight or understanding.
6 In all your ways know, recognize, and acknowledge Him, and He will direct and make straight and plain your paths.
7 Be not wise in your own eyes; reverently fear and worship the Lord and turn [entirely] away from evil. [Prov. 8:13.]
8 It shall be health to your nerves and sinews, and marrow and moistening to your bones.”
Dear friend, sometime in the third week of July 2020, I listened to an audio re-enactment of a TRUE STORY of a Nigerian man once living in the United States who was alleged to have shot and killed his wife, a nurse, because she refused to continue giving him her pay cheque.
The audio has the man dialing the 911 emergency services number and the dispatcher trying to engage in conversation with the distraught man who rains abuses on his already dead spouse.
The man is heard saying he made the lady who she was when he brought the lady from her country home in Nigeria to the U.S. after marrying her, and after training as a nurse she was now carrying on as if she were God.
He says further that she saw nothing wrong with building a country home for her father but refused to allow him send money to someone (obviously his own person).
He says she even kicked him out of his own home he bought with his own money.
Thereafter, the audio moves to when the police come to the area and a shot rings, several shots ring thereafter and then the audio ends in which case the man is also dead.
If this re-enacted audio message represents the facts of what truly transpired, then it is most unfortunate.
Sad as the episode is, I have read a number of real accounts of Nigerian men killing their spouses in the United States over similar circumstances where the man brought the lady from Nigeria after marriage, a misunderstanding occurs, leads to somewhat irreconcilable differences and the couple split.
Thereafter, the aggrieved man takes the law into his hands by killing his spouse.
What is the lesson for us here, dear friend?
A time was when African men used to marry African American women in the U.S. and such irreconcilable differences occurred after a while, the lady kicks the man out of the home to suffer untold hardship.
The other single African men living in the U.S. seeing this unfolding anomaly believed the solution lay in traveling home, getting married and bringing a total naïve woman from Africa to come to the United States to live with them.
However, recent occurrences have also shown that it does not matter where the spouse comes from because people do change when their financial and other circumstances improve.
The simple truth and reason why these marriages fail is because God is not involved.
A man who does not have the fear of God cannot make the right decisions in very serious matters of life.
It is the same for the womenfolk.
As long as God is not involved, things would most certainly go wrong because the devil is ever around the corner like a wounded lion seeking whom he may devour as we are told in 1 Peter 5:8.
A godless union between a man and a woman would certainly involve quarrels, insults, fighting, adultery, suspicion, secrets especially around money matters, divorce, separation, violence and murder in extreme cases.
The children produced from such unholy unions would hardly fare any better because there is no Spiritual guidance for them from their parents as God has commanded in His Word in Deuteronomy 6:5-9.
Dear friend, the fear of God is the beginning of wisdom.
For those who are married and are having seeming difficulty and irreconcilable differences in their union, the only right solution is to turn to God sincerely and commit your marriage, yourself and spouse into God’s hands and ask Him to take over completely.
For those who are single and aspire to this sacred institution ordained by God, always remember that it is only God Who can rightly direct your paths.
Learn from the mistakes of others that it is not where your spouse comes from or where your spouse is chosen from that matters. As long as God is not part of your plan, it would fail because the devil is involved and the devil’s sole mission is to kill, steal and destroy – John 10:10a.
Commit your plan in prayer into God’s hands and let God have His Way in your choice of partner including every other marital and other decisions of life and you can be sure that God will direct you rightly and give you all round peace.
I must however, warn here that it is not always what your church brethren tell you about whom you should marry that is correct because a lot of people have abused this with lies and mischievously arranged the coming together into marriage of two people whom God never sanctioned in the first place.
Even when people whom you believe mean well for you tell you God told them this is the person you should marry, thank them and speak to God yourself to confirm it to you.
God would surely do that. Always commit your plans into God’s hands and He would surely direct your paths.
Remember that Jesus Christ is coming NOW to take ONLY those who are qualified according to His righteous standards in the Holy Bible.
Are you living a genuine life as His disciple? Are you ready for Him?
May the good Lord bless you as you heed His Word today, act on it and share with others in Jesus’ Most Holy Name, Amen.
Gabriel Ama.
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